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Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong | Johann Hari

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What really causes addiction — to everything from cocaine to smart-phones? And how can we overcome it? Johann Hari has seen our current methods fail firsthand, as he has watched loved ones struggle to manage their addictions. He started to wonder why we treat addicts the way we do — and if there might be a better way. As he shares in this deeply personal talk, his questions took him around the world, and unearthed some surprising and hopeful ways of thinking about an age-old problem. TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many languages at http://www.ted.com/translate Follow TED news on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/tednews Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/TEDtalksDirector
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Rachel Rose (11 часов назад)
What about filling the void with the WRONG type of people? What then? Can this type of connection feed the demon even further? I do agree connection is very important. Thanks for the wonderful video.
Rebekah Tinker (17 часов назад)
He is wrong. The two legalised drugs in society cigarettes and alcohol are still the biggest killers. If Just being supportive of an addict worked then we would not have the problems with cigarettes and alcohol that we do. When smoking was banned in public places there was 17% drop in smokers that is huge. What makes an addict? That is the question? feeding rats opiods will not answer it. Addiction leads to many consequences the majority are bad but not just for the person concerned. Do you tell a woman married to a loving husband addicted to alcohol who only hits her when he is drunk to stay and show him support? If she dies under his hands have you helped him or her? Drugs kill! Whether they are legal ones or illegal ones and making the access easier does not stop that. I am a parent when my child does something wrong or dangerous I stop them and they get punished they learn a valuable lesson. Addicts should be helped but also they are rational human beings that must face the consequences of their choices.
P. B Amygdala (19 часов назад)
Phenomenal. Absolutely remarkable. My mind is racing with possibilities. Could this carry over to psychological conditions, such as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, etc? I look forward to learning more!
Rick (22 часа назад)
Ok , that makes sense for cocaine , but what about for the other drugs ? Is it the same rule?
Tom Fern (1 день назад)
punishment will not motivate change as a reward. social learning is the way to improve addiction. am i right?
missshae missshae (1 день назад)
Its difficult to sing a love song to someone to took your engagement ring and sold it to get high.
missshae missshae (1 день назад)
Well it's super difficult when you allow the addict to get close to you because you want to help but then what I have experienced in my life by doing that I was lied to, stolen from, manipulated, verbally abused. This is my personal experience. Addiction is an obstacle just like a lot of things and you have to learn how to live in spite of the obstacles and not use it as an excuse to never change.
kathy breakwell (1 день назад)
I agree with very little... Nice thought tho...
Wayne Rogers (2 дня назад)
“... recovery begins when one alcoholic talks with another alcoholic; sharing experience, strength, and hope.” - Alcoholics Anonymous. Preface to the 3rd Edition.
Tina Joplin (2 дня назад)
what about the clean and sober person that everybody just knows is on something because they either or on something or would be given the same life choice only there facing it sober
Mandy Leigh (2 дня назад)
BRILLIANT 🖤
Paul (2 дня назад)
Actually Hari, everything YOU know about addiction is wrong. https://theoutline.com/post/2205/this-38-year-old-study-is-still-spreading-bad-ideas-about-addiction
dopamine connection is a must bonding or banging/yin or yang/on or off/with or without/love or distance (adam before eve) we gotta found our eve we need what adam needed a bond even when he was in heaven it wasn't enough, he felt desperate, you(adam) bond positively(adams's will) with positive people(your eve)
Abhinav Ram (3 дня назад)
Kurzgesagt - without animation
Mel Fiorentino (4 дня назад)
Wow...i feel this is so spot on.
Laura Padron (4 дня назад)
genius
Rin Please (4 дня назад)
The only critique/question I have is if it’s all about dealing with loneliness and having connections and not the chemical process, why is it easier to quit cannabis/cocaine/LSD than it is heroine? Is it only bc of the withdrawals ?? Wouldn’t that be chemical though??
Ron Coletta (4 дня назад)
Nice speech Biff but as my drill Sgt. used to say "you're about as wrong as two boys in the woods" 🤣
Jenna Chou (4 дня назад)
Connect me on LinkedIn this is a critical area that needs to be properly discussed with increased public awareness
Nod Squad (4 дня назад)
Good sir, the drug war and treating addiction through incarceration is a failure by design. Privatized prisons, pharmaceutical corporations, adrenaline junkie cops, bail bondsmen, attorneys, probation officers. its a Billion dollar industry exploiting addiction and caging up struggling addicts.
Sara Tavares (5 дней назад)
I live in Portugal. But in beautiful Portugal there is no decent jobs for most of the people or if you got a job here, believe is one insecure, humiliating job with miserable payment. Conclusion: Most of young population is very poor. If you have trouble in your life, depression in your life you dont have enough for a doctor and if you do they prescribe you lots of medication that gets you addicted. Here in Portugal everyone points a finger to addicted people. The addicted people dont have base to go to recovery because they dont have family to support that and because they dont have money. There are no free, constructive, decent recovery places to go. And if you support a family instead being supported by one, you cant leave to recovery. Is a road where you must hide your addiction, suffer like a criminal, beg for the medication that a doctor prescribed to you once. Please ear me. This ends in death. Only death. There is no road back. Is like a War.
anthony (4 дня назад)
Thank you , I have read the "Algarve News" and as well the World Health Organization analysis of the Portuguese mental health system. As well the lack of access to treatment has been noticed. There is not much for the poor people. The video above tells all lies about Vietnam war and the "rat park" experiment which has been proven to be wrong. The reason this guy is doing a Ted Talk is because rich people who own the medical field are minimizing the effects of drugs so they can as well use "social justice" as a smoke screen to legalize drugs. Then they want to sell them at the pharmacy. From time to time we see someone from Portugal comment. Thank you for taking the time to tell us the reality.
karlwashere123 (5 дней назад)
You might have to flip through some videos but I have some real answers when it comes to dealing with withdrawal and understanding family members with addiction. Please come to my page and check it out
Mello Mentoring (5 дней назад)
Someone you love addicted to opiates? https://youtu.be/j4zC5_ZsZPo
Stephanie Ann (5 дней назад)
This is one of the best talks I've seen in ages.
Jonathan Faulhaber (5 дней назад)
If you've never been actually, physically dependent, you don't understand how it is, and have no right trying to say you do understand.
ardvarkkkkk1 (5 дней назад)
Jonathan Faulhaber Kind of like if you haven't been burned to death, you couldn't know what it is like. So, addicts should hang out with other addicts because they know what it is like. So, what you're saying is that, since nobody understands you but other addicts, you will just hang around them and be an addict forever.
Warrior Soul (5 дней назад)
Brilliant!!!
Same old thing (5 дней назад)
I know exactly what he means. PUNISHMENT is only going to make matters worse. And it's true, many people have no reason to get out of bed.
Amy Galvin (6 дней назад)
This may be true with some. There are different types of addiction. The happiest most loved person ‘s brain can become addiction( example heroin) after 1 use.
Amy Galvin (6 дней назад)
Russell Brand seems to have a good grasp on the subject in the U.k.
AlwaysMommy (6 дней назад)
I could only watch seven minutes of this because I completely disagree completely disagree with at least the first seven minutes when you are prescribed an opiate are you in a benzo for a long period of time miss people do you become addicted a lot of times you don’t even know when older people have hip replacements yes if they taken off for the drug for a long time they could become addicted yes so we do see that every single day and if you love your job and your family and you have lotsOf friends and bonds you can still become an alcoholic or an addict trust me that was me I have six years sober now and I had all that and I still became an alcoholic
ardvarkkkkk1 (5 дней назад)
AlwaysMommy This always happens. If you say that people in general act a certain way, somebody will come up with an exception and claim everything else is bullshit. So, you're are a loser. Not everybody is.
AlwaysMommy (5 дней назад)
Seriously I don’t got the time to sit here and proofread and use commas and ect. I don’t even type my comments I talk to my phone and it writes it for me
tombstonebaby (5 дней назад)
Please proofread & use punctuation next time, that made no sense whatsoever.
Rebecca Swanson (6 дней назад)
Sometimes its self medication. Sometimes its escaping pain. A lot of undiagnosed mentally I'll people abuse drugs to feel normal. Alot of people try to numb their pain, whether its physical or emotional. Many addicts have dual diagnoses. Bipolar, ADHD, schizophrenia, depression, borderline disorder, ptsd, abuse.
tomarbraun (7 дней назад)
Good ted talk, but i think the first example is kind of problematic, as we are seeing regular people become addicted due to the overprescription of medical opiates.
Katy Rivard (7 дней назад)
This brought tears to my eyes. I have loved addicts and struggle somewhat as well. it really is about comnection purpose and having value as a person. All addicts have issues with feeling unworthy. The shame and the marginilization fruther disconnecting and shaming does not work! I wish Canada would figure it out! so heartbreaking
asynchronicity (8 дней назад)
The opposite of solution is over-simplification.
Gold (9 дней назад)
Clickbait format: Everything you know about (insert topic) is wrong
Vaishnavi Gupta (9 дней назад)
Great! I'd highly recommend Gabor maté's ted talk as well, the man he mentions in this talk. It will change the way you see addiction completely.
Veronica Hall (9 дней назад)
i've never commented before, but I felt compelled to do so by the tears streaming down my face from watching this touching video. You're saving people by telling the world to practice genuine compassion and empathy, especially when the common practice is to shame. Thank you for taking an interest in something as taboo as addiction and for sharing it here. I am disheartened to see so many others just glaze over the subject without any of your fearless intellectual insight.
francis mitchell (9 дней назад)
what about God and his grace which frees every addicted who seeks him jesus yeshua amen
ardvarkkkkk1 (5 дней назад)
Someone always has to invoke the fairy tale.
Eva Morgan (9 дней назад)
I don't understand how this guy ended up on a stage, all mic'd up, with hundreds of people hanging on his every word.... don't get me wrong, he's quite charming, eloquent and seemingly well intentioned. I'm simply blown away by how wrong he is. I mean the core of his argument is simply 100% incorrect. Addiction, specifically opioid addiction, is an accepted, scientifically proven disease that doesn't discriminate or simply "go away" when one's circumstances improve. I'm shocked that he used medical pain management as an analogy to show how people who experience medical problems that require pain management don't ever become addicted; he actually made it sound absurd!!! When the truth of the matter is that well over half of all heroin addicts started with prescription pain killers and almost 90% of those people had legitimate prescriptions for some sort of pain. The few good points he does make are so painfully obvious I don't see how they even require explanation; of course happy, well adjusted people with strong bonds to their community and a loving family are going to be less likely to participate in self destructive behavior! DUH! But that doesn't mean they are immune to addiction. In fact there are countless thousands out there RIGHT NOW who had all of those things but still couldn't beat it and now live in tents and panhandle or commit petty crimes to support their habit. This guy needs to do a bit more research before he portrays his misguided opinions as facts.
Eva Morgan (4 дня назад)
D4v Snow Don't take my word for it, do some research. it's a scientifically proven fact that heroin is the one substance that can actually alter our brain PHYSICALLY, causing us to crave it with the exact same level of need as we crave air, food and water. I'm not saying everyone who tries the drug experiences this; but an astonishing number of us do, hence the feeling of "impending doom" that accompany withdrawal. regardless of the knowledge that you're not going to die, the panic is so intense (I can only relate it to drowning) that all logic goes out the window and one's fight or flight kicks in. I'm pretty surprised that, as an addict, you agree with this guy at all, but to say that the essence of his message is correct is just simply the-world-is-flat, global-warming-is-a-myth, evolution-is-just-an-opinion kind of wrong. I think perpetuating his message is risking further undeserved pain and guilt for family and loved ones who are being told that with enough love the addict can overcome something that almost always requires medical intervention.
D4v Snow (4 дня назад)
Eva Morgan I have been an addict for 8 years. I don’t 100% agree w him but nearly. You have some valid points and it starts in legit prescriptions but something is lacking in that persons life to allow that addiction to become more important than physical or emotional connection. When an addict stops they get a flood of emotion. That is partly chemical of course but I don’t think it’s as chemical as we are lead to believe. Just my opinion. Nearly every addiction story starts “i started getting more withdrawn “. I think that’s the drug becoming your new bond. Quitting is definitely physical but the essence of addiction he is correct about.
anthony (9 дней назад)
With all the lawsuits against the drug companies maybe they will subpoena him and he can bring his research . LMFAO.
Eva Morgan (9 дней назад)
I don't understand how this guy ended up on a stage, all mic'd up, with hundreds of people hanging on his every word.... don't get me wrong, he's quite charming, eloquent and seemingly well intentioned. I'm simply blown away by how wrong he is. I mean the core of his argument is simply 100% incorrect. Addiction, specifically opioid addiction, is an accepted, scientifically proven disease that doesn't discriminate or simply "go away" when one's circumstances improve. I'm shocked that he used medical pain management as an analogy to show how people who experience medical problems that require pain management don't ever become addicted; he actually made it sound absurd!!! When the truth of the matter is that well over half of all heroin addicts started with prescription pain killers and almost 90% of those people had legitimate prescriptions for some sort of pain. The few good points he does make are so painfully obvious I don't see how they even require explanation; of course happy, well adjusted people with strong bonds to their community and a loving family are going to be less likely to participate in self destructive behavior! DUH! But that doesn't mean they are immune to addiction. In fact there are countless thousands out there RIGHT NOW who had all of those things but still couldn't beat it and now live in tents and panhandle or commit petty crimes to support their habit. This guy needs to do a bit more research before he portrays his misguided opinions as facts.
steve b (9 дней назад)
So DUMP 2,000,000 American junkies in Portugal!!! Problem Solved!!!!!!!
Jay Smith (10 дней назад)
Ha! Money doesn't care for Truth.
Jessy G (11 дней назад)
Like to add that it’s good to hear someone not actually judging the individuals that use drugs, in today’s society we all live by binge/addiction/24/7 non stop lifestyle. By this I mean most of us are on some sort of treadmill and will use anything as a release, even those addicted to shopping, or food get a physical satisfaction THE FEEL GOOD FACTOR which is hard to break and can have mental health and debt issues just as taking drugs. Yes I understand some of the comments concerning the effects on the body with drug abuse which is mostly found in processed drugs yet if you put drinking and drugs together the amount of people that have been affected by drinking is actually much higher but because it has been deemed safe by government we get to call it a disease... just like to draw your attention to when gin was drunk like water even by children, the behaviour and effects of drinking lead to an over flow of mental institutions. Drinking, drugs, spending and food all have similar outcome, confidence building for the individual using any of the above. I believe it’s the break down in society in the so called western world that is the main cause.
Marcus Liddell (11 дней назад)
I know that addiction has the letter “a” in it, is this wrong? A really hate these titles. What ever you “know” about something may have elements of truth, mistruth, half truth, but “everything wrong” nope
Kamala Pati (11 дней назад)
Addiction is a demon
Rock Geo (11 дней назад)
Can relate to the fact that when I was at my happiest. I was high on life. I had a purpose. I had my goals and ambitions, did what my heart told me to do - I like this girl, let's go get her number; pushing my own boundaries everyday. Not stuck behind society's demands. Only that later on, I lost that ability over time due to bad habits and that caused my addiction spiral. Connection to self and other important pillars of your life (family, friends, lover, purpose) is the key to solving addiction I believe. True connection however is hard to obtain, but if you are lucky enough to have those connections and bonds. I believe it is truly possible to be high on life rather than on drugs.
Zial Zoon (12 дней назад)
Yes. Thank you for finding the truth and sharing the truth.
David Hand (12 дней назад)
I don't buy it. I had an uncle who was a drug addict, and he loved his family, loved the business he created, loved the technology he worked with, loved Jesus. He had every reason to live his life without cocaine, but never could get out from under it. He was a genius, a musician and a technician. I still miss him. Practically speaking, though, I agree with this 100%. My uncle got all kinds of grief and isolation from every direction when his addiction came to light that never, ever helped. End the drug war, not because you condone drugs, but because you don't condone mass incarceration that drives addicts further away from recovery and gives us nothing in return.
sönke zürner (12 дней назад)
The opposite of addiction could be connection. It could also be detachment. Some people bond with the void. Or: with being unbonded. The opposite of addiction could be connection. But addiction could--or, as I would argue, must--also be a version of connectedness. Just as the philosopher is 'connected' to his ratiocinative process, the musician to his music-making, the drug-user is connected to his mind & body altering substances and the experiences they induce. "To bond or connect with something" comes down to spending time doing x. And everything has its time and place. Who could argue against the fact that as human beings we participate in x, y, and z because we find x, y, and z desirable? So the explanation (that being addicted is the contrary of being connected) is not really much of one at all. No least of all because behaviors do not oppose one another. (Is crossing the street the opposite of lying down on the grass? or is it not rather just NOT crossing the street?) Does science contradict religion? Only if playing tennis contradicts mountain climbing. Connection-to-people must needs appear as the cure to addiction to someone embedded in the interpersonal equilibrium (in Jerome Kegan's sense), that is to say, people whose very existence is defined by their incorporation in the lives of others. But clearly, one can have the most extensive circle of friends and still become an addict. In this regard, Hari's object-relational rehash is mistaken. Taking drugs may seem like an alternative to or compensation for a lack of relationship. But people can and do ween themselves of their substances of choice quite on their own, without replacing their addiction with new relationships. Unless "relationships" encompasses things learned from reading books. Books, for example, about meditation, yoga, renunciation, etc. Clearly, such assimilation is also a kind of relationship. So long as one is fleeing the void--whether by bonding with people or with mind-altering substances--one cannot rest within oneself. The opposite of addiction, insofar as it makes sense to call it that, and insofar as what opposes it cures the addiction, is self-mastery.
jon david (12 дней назад)
It wasnt wrong. It was done on purpose
nuclearmonster (13 дней назад)
I think this is wrong because there people who are addicts and have good bonds and still have addiction.
James Ginn (13 дней назад)
How about going to root cause and start from there. The root cause is 95% of the time with the parents. Yes even those that think they have done nothing wrong in raising their children. Its not difficult to screw up or screw with a childs mind. All of these psychological effects have a readily explainable cause. But the liberals like they do with so many issues in society want to treat the symptoms as though there is no root cause.
LICKHER&STICKHERINTHEPINK &OTHERPLACES (13 дней назад)
WHAT A FUCKING MORON !
Samantha Yodis (13 дней назад)
When he says someone can't come out of a hospital hooked, uhh... I guess you haven't met enough people dude. Lol not that uncommon. Doctor's are the drug dealers.
lorelei smith (14 дней назад)
Loneliness and self imposed isolation are indeed components of the human condition. Addiction or obsessive use of anything that fills the gap often readily follows. It is not the love on the outside from others that creates that bonding; it is the inside job an addict, alcoholic must develop. We cannot love anyone well. But we can provide an arena, a place to learn how to express love while we continue to hide valuables, credit cards, and car keys; learn that the we all must own our behavior ; understand that even apparently lovely lives have hidden traumas or disconnections. Forgiveness after the last straw can exist and often does. Regaining trust is earned and the whole family, friend system is in need of care. Love is a powerful gift and definitely a key factor but we cannot transmit what we haven't got. Nor can we fix another by loving them well. That doesn't mean we stop loving. What we can do, is not harm another.
Michael Mitchell (14 дней назад)
He is so correct. Wake up people! The Beatles said it about the same time: All You Need Is Love!
James Ginn (13 дней назад)
you mean parents who truly love their children...instead of loving their own big egos.
John Guglielmo (14 дней назад)
Amazingly educational !!!! Thank you !!!!
eakherenow (14 дней назад)
It was in England that medical staff saw that drugs weren't addictive when they were used for physical pain.Patients who continued drugs were facing emotional pain.Gabor Mate's program addressed that,their shame,fear,loneliness...
James Ginn (13 дней назад)
addicts are running from the angst within their own minds. yes emotional pain.
Raymond Ashby (14 дней назад)
Johann Hari = ball bag.  I've heard some people come out with ill-informed bs like this before, but Hari comes very near the top of my all-time top-ten Eejits' list
Michael Mathews (14 дней назад)
Anyone can come off of meds in a controlled environment. However for me many serious injuries as well as 9 major surgeries went let me get threw the pain.
Z A (14 дней назад)
poor rats, and mongoose
Wyatt (14 дней назад)
Connection won’t necessarily fix addiction but it can prevent it. They may start drugs due to loneliness, but the brain wires itself to keep coming back impulsively. The rats in rat park won’t start the drugs but if you took the same rat out of the lonely cage and put him in the rat park, he is still going to go to the laced water even if none of the others are. And the people on drugs may want nothing to do with you if you try to help them. At that point they feel like the drugs are their friend and you are the enemy
Janie Lee, M.Ed. (14 дней назад)
Stop punishing people taking away their ability to live normal lives especially if they want it to end so they can get on with their lives. The problem really is the drug company and the gov trying to use drugs to treat them. Connection in the right directions because negative peer pressure is what you are talking about flipped around to the opposite direction. NAMI and other such organizations being funded by the drug companies to legally push drugs as medications really is the problem. These organizations lobby the gov and the doctors get kick backs too and they lobby the gov. This is the real problem and the drug stores are a funny one they have tobacco, candy, alcohol, and drugs for addiction all in the same place they call it treatment or entertainment they have the makeup so you can get that date the drug company says is the cure and the drugs for the infections Bernankee ranking fed member of the economy explained how his family survived they owned a drug store. The people are going to have to want to get off of these drugs and many of them don't even after they learn 78 thousand people die from them a year. That's nothing but the death numbers and even after a family member dies they still want the drugs called medications.
ardvarkkkkk1 (5 дней назад)
Janie Lee, M.Ed. You struck a major point. If an addict doesn't want to get clean, he wont. You can't make them. Not only do they have to want to give up the drugs, they have to be willing to quit hanging around with others that do it.
Christina Gray (14 дней назад)
Awesome Ted Talk! Growing up in Southern Louisiana, I can remember seeing so many people around me get strung out on drugs. One of my fondest memories; however, is one when I was 9 years old and my parents welcomed an addict to our home as family. Over the course of two years she stopped using, started consistently attending church, working a great job, and working out regularly. I’m so glad to see statistics supporting the power of connection or Love in the matter. I understand this may not seem ideal to some, but nevertheless, I look forward to a time when the US is implementing new processes or at least taking a new approach to fighting addiction. Kudos to great people doing great things!
Sammy B. (15 дней назад)
I’m reading a lot of mixed comments here. I don’t think the purpose of the ted talk was proving one concrete solution to the problem. This person was seeking answers to try and help their loved ones. Every situation is different; dependence and/or mental illness are factors that play into addiction. It’s the intolerance that makes it harder, almost unbearable. We do this to criminals, homeless, drug addicts. It is what society teaches us to do. Punish the people that do bad things. Make them suffer. Think if you were a child and you had done something wrong. Your parent never let you live it down. Is that not a cycle of abuse? The point is what we were taught to do or treat people is wrong. Different is different, but not wrong. We are all human. We all make mistakes, are we not entitled to a second chance. Next time you see a homeless person on the street show some compassion. Why don’t you ask them how they are? How this happened to them? We pass judgement too easily in today’s society. We shouldn’t dismiss or discredit something just because we do not agree with it. Just like we should not treat people like trash. 7.8 k comments this generated. Connection and discussing other possibilities..talking about the things we don’t want to talk about. Mental illness, withdrawal, addiction, undesirables, and isolation. We aren’t sweeping it under the rug anymore. I’m pretty sure this ted talk met its purpose.
JV Harbin (15 дней назад)
He is wrong on a couple stats.
Marcus Ward (15 дней назад)
Drugs began around age 12 | Marcus Ward Show https://youtu.be/tHXzH5FLvW8
Dawn Hanaway (15 дней назад)
best spoken truth i ever heard
Marcus Ward (15 дней назад)
Drugs began around age 12 | Marcus Ward Show https://youtu.be/tHXzH5FLvW8
Heartwork by Kitty (15 дней назад)
I love how He wrote down his notes on his hands Hehe
Miggiesgirl (16 дней назад)
I clapped and stood up in my bedroom. Lol Very heartfelt.
Maarten (16 дней назад)
this is 100% correct
Kirsty Watson (16 дней назад)
Hey, here's a longish post brewing thank you to anyone who reads or has input. I would appreciate coming across this post myself which is my reason for writing. My substance of 'abuse' for eight years since age 21 has been alcohol. The style of drinking I go with is what I call 'drip-drinking ' which is basically smallish amounts at any one time whenever I can get away with it all day every day beginning first thing. I get through at least a big bottle of spirits a day in this way. Apart from those with sensitive noses, I fortunately and unfortunately can get away with this because as a general rule it does not negatively affect how I interact with people. For example my parents who I see regularly hate the idea itself of dysfunctional or even alone drinking and come down on me with great disgust whenever they recognise I have been drinking at all that day. They genuinely do not notice it the vast majority of the time. I wanted to note I am also not 'toxic' (unsure what proportion of alcoholics that would be) with all that that entails though I have big personal flaws. I'm not negative for example and my partner of 5 years tells me a good trait of mine is I am not prone to complaining. My parents consider me to be doing okay these days and we usually pass time pleasantly together on a personal basis though we are very different and this leads them to complaining some :P . My point is booze as a general rule doesn't make me bad to be around/ any worse or create much in the way of non-financial consequences. Course if I happen to misjudge and drink too much at a time it does make me more irresponsible and affects my judgement which is not ideal I drink for a number of reasons like a lot of people and do not have any inherent problem with alcohol itself as a fact of my life. It helps give me sort of artificial motivation (ie. impulsivity), lifts my mood, confidence and helps me take an interest as I feel I really lack drive. I feel lost without it although I am aware this is a psychological dependency. I feel v depressed at the thought of living life without it really. I am afraid of what all this is will do in not so very much time to my health. eg. Recently I've been getting the earliest signs of alcoholic neuropathy (nerve damage) aged 29. Not a big deal now but the inevitability of major health problems on this alcoholic path frightens and disturbs me. I've tried stopping altogether a few times since my drinking always snowballs but it has never lasted more than a couple of months depending on the environment I am in. Getting really stressed about it last week I tried limiting the amount of cash available to me by half so that I could only afford a half bottle a day and would drink strictly when I 'needed' it. Yes being able to afford booze at all is a first world problem etc. But this scenario hasn't slowed me down a bit in week 1. My new plan is to give the majority of what would be my booze money to my father to keep in trust for me (he wouldn't give it back to me for just anything) so that I just cannot afford more than about two bottles a week. I know this money handover sounds kind of bizarre / dysfunctional but the habit itself is strong and dysfunctional and it may well weaken me psychologically. I'm also trying to build up my references through more volunteer work to enable me to get a full time job hopefully where I can't afford to go in in the morning smelling of booze which would be a good deterrent. I haven't had a paid job since 2014. I used to feel there was not a lot I could really do although I have some abilities but there are things I can. Staying busy is important... So what stereotypes do I hit or miss as an alcohol addict and how easy 'should' it be in this particular case to quit or just cut back. Every addicted person's situation is unique with different motivators and consequences and you can't generalise too much Does anyone here have a relatively similar (or otherwise) situation? How have you Been? Thanks...
Marcus Ward (15 дней назад)
Drugs began around age 12 | Marcus Ward Show https://youtu.be/tHXzH5FLvW8
Steven Butler (17 дней назад)
Addiction is a relationship. Good video except the last 2 minutes. Everybody is entitled to boundaries, and a really good book on this as by cloud and Townsend called Boundaries. You should tell the addict that you would like to have a relationship with them but as long as they are doing harmful things that you do not want to be around you will exercise your right to cut off your relationship to them. However I think the confrontational approach can be helpful as long as you emphasized both boundaries, and the confrontation of how the addicts Behavior has impacted you. but the idea of singing love songs to addicts is complete b*******. I work professionally in this field than I've seen addicts who have prostituted out their own children for drug money. I work with children who've been beaten to s*** by their drug addict parents and exposed in utero and the first many years of their life to their drug addict and alcoholic Crazy idiot parent Behavior. there needs to be jails and prisons to teach people that you can't do these horrible things to other people including stealing their property and destroying other people's lives without some consequence.
Jillian Green (17 дней назад)
Brilliant useful talk
We Are One, Inc. (17 дней назад)
www.WeAreOne.cc - We Are One, Inc. - WAO
Maxine Winder (17 дней назад)
Thank you for this...love this approach...I am so with you on “connection”! ❤️
Martha S. (17 дней назад)
At the beginning of this video I though it will be a BS.... But soon realised he is 100% right.
martino amello (17 дней назад)
I'd propose a test.. Take this schlub and inject him with high grade heroin for about 6 months then keep him on stage for a week without the drug(s) and see how he reacts.. Easy to say that if everything around you is honky dory you won't have withdraw symptoms. The truth is far different from these happy, pie in the sky thinking scenarios. I've been through addiction many times. It just doesn't work the way the pie in the sky thinkers think it works.
Bertysimplezzz (17 дней назад)
so this dude is saying withdrawal doesn't exist when you're in a comfortable and grounded environment and that its only caused by having a sober perspective in inhumane and unbearable situations?
I am ME (18 дней назад)
I've learned this lesson by surviving. I'm 51 and have overcome alcoholism, heroin abuse, methadone, and even returned from a short death. I've lived and survived a unique and interesting life. I kept the people that I love and my environment changed as I kept on keeping on. After my short death I had plenty of time for self discovery. Alone in a hospital bed, recovering from a traumatic automobile accident for nearly 6 months, affords a man time to dwell, ponder, and think. So I did just that. Fast forward 10 years and here I AM. I built my own rat park inside of myself. I have a beautiful wife of 22 years and we genuinely get along. I am a real father to our 2 children and I have my best friend of nearly 40 years. I shouldn't have any of this. It's just about time I spoke up. Stay tuned because "Sweeney Said". I've discovered some beautiful magic. In a year or so my son will be done with home schooling and I'll be ready to SAY. If you're interested in my story feel free to contact me or bide your time. My time is coming. I'm going to fix a few things around here or maybe I'll just take over the world.... You'll be seeing me soon.
Kimmy Anne (18 дней назад)
👍 sounds great. Biblical concept...like everything God has told us..it works. Love your neighbor as yourself...
Nicholas Becker (18 дней назад)
Also, not only teach loved ones how to respond to addicts, but to teach this method to the addicted. I knew I was filling a void, just didn’t know what that void was until now. Thanks
Sadhana Sharma (18 дней назад)
you are super amazing! Hari
anas cheema (19 дней назад)
@Fabian hiedler @Raphaelo People are not thier disease
Charity Carter (19 дней назад)
Finally. The place mark where we may all begin to move forward from addiction.
Linda Diane (19 дней назад)
Marc Lewis, Phd is more of an authority on this topic, as he studied neurodevelopmental psychology and WAS AN ADDICT. "Memoirs of an Addicted Brain" and "The Biology of Desire" are both excellent.
Stephanie Carlin (19 дней назад)
That was amazing! It was the FIRST TIME I've ever heard someone who's educated on addiction say, without prompting or any prior debate, that addiction is NOT a dependence on the drug, but a goal of, and eventually dependence on, escaping or disassociation from reality. It's about connections. It's about lost connections. It's about no connections, or no support system when TRYING to get sober. It's about not being able to talk to AODA counselors about how you TRULY feel about recovery or an AODA counselor who only knows about addiction from reading and studying, NOT from any addict friends/family members or *actual* long-term use or struggles with addiction themselves. But punishment, guilt, shame, and threats of loss (such as their friendship or "love") are not enough. I can very easily see how the way Portugal treats addicts and addiction can make a HUGE difference for addicts. If I have had multiple drug charges, have lost several jobs due to my drug use, if it's cost me my residence and I'm now homeless, and my family and friends have all said "stop using or I will stop being your friend/stop loving you," then WHAT'S THE POINT in getting sober? I STILL won't be able to get a job, because of my record. So I STILL won't be able to afford an apartment, so I'll still be homeless. And, no matter WHO you are, you've now told/shown me that your love for me is conditional, meaning you could take it away again at ANY time, potentially with no notice. If that's what you have to "look forward to" during early recovery, WHY WOULD ANYONE EVEN TRY!! Thank you, Johann for your EXTREMELY THOROUGH research and interviews! Also for writing this speach and everything it took to appear on TedTalks. As a recovering heroin addict (2 1/2 years!!) on methadone, as well as homeless and socializing regularly with current users, I will MOST DEFINITELY be sharing this link with EVERYONE I possibly can!!! Thank you again, Mr. Hari!
ColorYourWorldPerspective MentalHealth (20 дней назад)
no bonding no attachment.hello.
Deleted Account (20 дней назад)
Johann Hari is one of the most special humans on Earth.
Shawnee Bigelow (20 дней назад)
Positive connection and bonding to family, schools, peer groups, and community is a protective factor...however there are many other risk factors besides the lack of connection that increase the rates of substance abuse. It's so much more complex than his premise.
Missy Oothoudt (20 дней назад)
I am not a drug addict but when trying to get off of antidepressants the same withdrawal happens to you if you were trying to get off long term use of hard drugs. Your body and brain rely on it.
Clayton Davis (20 дней назад)
This is why I am suing al anon.
Miguel Crisetti (20 дней назад)
Your one of the top speakers. But wats your problem with Portugal please call me Miguel 732 799 2946
Nina S (21 день назад)
I can see where he is coming from. And he has made very good points. But then how does that explain people surrounded by love and connection being addicts and committing suicide? Some people are addicts BECAUSE they live in rat park. Everyone loves them, everything is nice, everything. Is. Perfect. Except them. Addiction is so personal and is a physical illness as well as mental. And it must be respected for its diversity. Great video!
Ryugo7 7 (21 день назад)
I used to be addicted to drugs and I have a bit of sympathy for addicts, sometimes. The thing is, if I was able to prioritize my goals and recognize the obstacles in my life and choose to remove the ones that I could, then what is stopping others? Some people seem to not want to do better and in my mind, at times, are weak. The majority of the time I completely understand the situation and literally feel an addicts pain. They want to stop but they can’t. It’s become a way of life, a routine and a comfort. It boils down to the question, “Do I want to live, or do I want to die?”. Some people would rather die than live. Most would rather live than die. Johann said it best, “I want to be present in my life.”
Gary Ballard (21 день назад)
I don't know about alot of what he said, I am an addict and have been for 45 years. I've been loved and hated, supported and despised and I'm still an addict haha.But one thing that is totally true is the war on drugs is total bullshit. I think Portugal has the best idea.
SDPRZ (21 день назад)
I think deep down we’ve always known this, deep down we know that people are addicted to drugs because their life pretty much sucks, they’re environment is awful and the people around them don’t help much either. As always, Love is the answer
Viktoria Söder (21 день назад)
I'd say this is bullshit. Or at least very one sided. Been medicine drug addicted. It almost killed me to get rid of it. Still need it, but choose not to take it.
Terri Kolomijez (21 день назад)
Most addicts will not get help unless they are ready or dead
Ben verified (14 дней назад)
True. But I sense some bitterness in here. Is it me or have you had a tough time with an addict?
Terri Kolomijez (21 день назад)
In the meantime they rip apart the people that love them
Eddie Congdon (22 дня назад)
You are going to "love that addict" into a overdose

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